being a girl on the market i have a lot of questions when people talk about giving in in shidduchim? What will I have to give in? Will he want me to go to his mother and father every other shabbos? will he expect me not to work when i would like to(for the scoial part not the money) and will he want me to make these major 5 course suppers every night when i am not used to that? I am so confused and whenever i hear these things i am not sure what people mean….what do i have to change and what will i have to adjust to? are we talking about changing everything i am used to? What if he snores? What if he showers only once in two days while i MUST shower ever night no matter what? I am very scared about what things i might have to give in and i sometimes think it’s just not worth it!
BPT- i remember you once wrote that a marriage that is good….there is nothing like it but if it doesn’t work….it’s hell