Lmayseh there has to be a strong emotional feeling of simcha and not being able to wait to see the person you are going out with. You should look forward to each date with great excitement. If you are feeling blah about it, that is not the right one.
However, if the simcha and meshicha are there, and there are external issues like which town to live in, or something like that, then that is a normal part of marriage, and you must try to reach an understanding or a compromise. That is no reason to break a shidduch unless it is absolutely impossible to work out. Like one is in a top college on the East Coast with no other program available, and the other can’t leave the West Coast for urgent reasons or similar.