Reply To: Shadchan's opinion on lack of flexibility in Shidduchim.

I think a number of people understood the e-mail as the Shadchan suggesting someone to me who wasn’t where I was. Actually, it was a little different. I went to the shadchan because I want a very frum girl. [And for the record I don’t watch any TV and I don’t listen to secular music]. However I was telling the shadchan that I need an “open-minded” girl who wouldn’t freak out from a guy who wanted to watch a movie with her. Not because I necessarily want to, but because I don’t want the “lachatz” of knowing that if I ask my wife one day if she wants to watch a movie she will look at me like I am a sheigetz. The Shadchan’s response was that the Yeshivish girls she works with can’t accept any shades of gray. We are talking about divorced women here in their 30s. Which is why I asked whether you agree with this Shadchan or not. Thanks.