@real-brisker,derech hamelech, and frumladygit-
I don’t see any problem with saying there is a problem in our community and it needs to be corrected. That is the point of this post. We need to be more self-aware (myself included) that we are being watched at all times and we represent H”KBH. We all need to work on are middos. (Perhaps the next time we order food delivered, we will give a dollar for a tip 🙂
Additionally I don’t think there is any problem with being dan lkaf zchus, because she never said that this story was true, the point is this is what non-jews (or frei yidden who it is infinitely more important to make a kiddush hashem to), have such an impression of us. That is the situation. Now, what can we do about it. What she saw herself, she saw herself.
In fact, I think this post has quite possibly more of a toeles than any other thread.