oomis:
Sorry! No one HAS to do a chessed.
If a person CHOOSES to do a chessed the least they can do is shut their mouths and maintain the dignity of the person they did the chessed for. Unless the person acted as a criminal at your home a host has no right ‘yenting’ about the person they CHOSE to help. It all boils down to CHOICES, to do or to ignore. Once you made the choice, you have to live with the outcomes.