intersaanteh said;
“You wouldn’t happen to be one of those mingling mothers, would you?” LOL!!! (no offense flowers)
I just had to comment, there seems to be no reasonal explanation for people to defend this behavior of parent Meddling unless one is guilty of this practice.
Obviously we are not talking about a parent getting involved when there is an actual problem e.g. abuse verbally or physical,
not providing financial, emotional support, etc…
We are talking about typical parents who cannot accept the fact that their kids are all grown up & need to build their own family, making their own decisons even if it is contrary to their parents liking.
Some mothers merely feel that their daughters have been taken away from them so to speak by their son in law. Not validated by any wrong doing of said son in law. Simply that the daughter moved out and respects her husband, agrees with him over her mother is enough to send these mentally disturbed mothers over the edge. Vowing a vendetta of revenge and destruction to their marriage.
Some mothers simply dont like the way their SIL/DIL looks.
She feels that she isnt pretty enough for her son, for who the sun rises everyday (twice a day) or that her SIL isn’t such a polished gem that she can brag about to her friends.
But here’s the thing, It’s NOT your business who your sons or daughters find attractive it’s not your life,
It’s theirs, and you don’t get to make the decisions anymore.
Deal with it, take prozac, or just cont. meddling so you can mess up two wonderful peoples future, over your petty insecurities, or trying to hang on to the past, by ruining their present and future.
Most parents who meddle will tell you that they care too much. Don’t be fooled, these people are the most selfish people you can find.
Caring parents; please stay out of your childrens business and get your own life, unless there is a Serious issue, ask a rov (that’s not on your payroll) to confirm, don’t ruin what could be a true bayis ne’man based on your personal issues. Seek professional help.