It is important for anyone coming into the parsha to sit down and discuss with their parents what they want in a spouse. They should also listen to hear what their parents “want” for them in a spouse and then decide together what to look for.
It is very sad and wastes so much time and energy of the individuals and shadchanim when the parents spend all their energies setting up dates according to their own wants and not according to their child’s wants and needs. Many times they are way separate issues and it doesn’t lead to a happy or successful conclusion. There is no point in going on date after date with prospects that do not meet your needs.