Reply To: Do I have to tell?

Real-brisker I never would keep it a secret from the boy I’m dating (if I was dating him seriously). I don’t feel the need to tell him on the first date because I would like him to see me for who I am not for my mental illness or the medicine that I’m on.

As for telling the shadchan, I’m just not comfortable telling them. I think that they wont want to set me up (even if they say otherwise) and then my issues are being aired to the world. The more people that know, the more likely it is for the rest of the world to find out and I don’t want so many people knowing.

bpt- I could never be sure that the boy did full disclosure but my issue is pretty major (bpd- borderline personality disorder).

I have it very much under control and even read that it is curable with the right therapy which I’m working on. I know you will all say that I shouldn’t be dating or something along those lines but I disagree. I am doing so unbelievably well that I feel like I’m ready to move onto the next stage in life. Hopefully, I will have a husband that will be supportive of my issue but who knows?