Ask any divorced woman what’s on her list:”I just want a nice guy”.Half of them don’t even care if he’s litvish or chasidish!
I am personally from the “still traumatized” club.Also,I was trapped for so long,I don’t ever want to be trapped like that again.I asked for a “get” many,many times and was turned down,while rabbonim refused to make him move out….But he had this fear that one day I would figure out I could go to court so HE GOT A LAWYER.
Meanwhile,I never went that route,and he beat me to it.
One day,out of the blue,I got a summons to court,and a few months later he had me arrested.
And people think they can convince me that “there are a lot of good guys out there”?!Maybe so,but I will not take that chance again!