eclipse – “But the only way to be safe from future abuse is TO BE FULLY ACCEPTING OF ONESELF,FLAWS AND ALL.”
I hate to be sounding like a therapist but you have self-esteem. You show it to yourself dealing with bloggers, phone conversations. You only have to transition this when it’s the whole person live, not just their voice. People like me, who have been criticized their whole life have difficulty dealing with criticism. What I do now, if it’s someone I don’t want to open my mouth to, I mull it over. If I feel it’s an incorrect criticism, I’ll just ignore it. If the person is correct, I’ll say to myself, Ok another thing to work on. In order not to let this damage my self-esteem, I’ll also say to Myself -Yea, but look who’s talking, you have xyz wrong with you. Noone is perfect in this world and this fact should not make you feel any less than anyone else!