True. I also know that a lot of guys speak to their Rav about it and just follow what he says which is why I wouldn’t fault a guy if he doesn’t do it for me.”
So if someone’s Rov tells him to act boorishly, that would be acceptable behavior? I doubt a Rov would instruct his talmidim to show such a lack of middos tovos.Derech Eretz kadma l’Torah.