oomis – mw13 pretty much summed up what i was going to say. At the most, not walking a girl to the door is a violation of not subscribing to a chivalrous idea. It is not boorish in any way. lack of chivalry is not boorish. I think the distinction would be what you would do for anyone else who is not a date. Would you drop off a friend and just watch from the car to make sure he/she got in? I think most people would say yes. Again, we’re not talking about waiting for her heels to hit the curb and then zoom off. The reason you should bring it up and allow him to explain (if it bothers you so much) is that he may have a valid reason like tznius (which you may not like or agree with but it is a reason that certainly takes him out of the category of someone who will treat you poorly after marriage based on how he treats you now). Also, if you can’t bring up issues that bother you and give him a chance to talk it out, how are you expecting to deal with it after marriage?
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