And finally, please address my curious question (This is my third invocation, and your ignoring it means that you either don’t have a good answer or you are ignoring me which is discourteous 😉 ): What are the top 5 things that you think are important to look for in a guy you are dating? And, once again, be specific please. None of “He should be a mentsch” since that is too broad. If you want to make it 10 things so you have more to work with, that’s fine. “
Either I have not read your posts, or did not realize they were addressed to me, as I don’t recall seeing these questions. I am married, so clearly I am not looking for ANYTHING in anone I am dating. 😉 However, to answer your question (courteously) :
1)kind/ baal chessed/thoughtful
2)learned
3)have simchas hachayim
4)good sense of humor
5)strong love of family/devotion shown to both sides of the family
6)love of children of all ages
7)strong kesher with Rov, but still thinks for himself
8)in the case of a girl for my son, all the above, and also an appreciation for chazzanus
9)clean and put-together, attractive to my child
10) Last, but not least, truly loves and values my child