cshapiro: i know that the system isn’t perfect, but it really can work. anyways, it’s better than the alternatives. in secular world, can meet at bars and don’t know a thing about them. in MO boys and girls can be friends for years and not even think of marriage cuz all know each other for too long. or basically they can do what we do – someone who knows both of them and thinks it’s a good idea and then sets them up. if you used to be different, sometimes, people don’t realize that you’ve changed. so, tell everyone – your friends, relatives, teachers, etc. what you’re looking for and daven, daven, daven! maybe, the guy himself has to change, but he hasn’t changed yet 🙂 good luck! Hashem could make the sea split; He definitely can have the right person find you. (also, there are shadchanim that deal with YU guys – maybe, call them.)
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