ok. been at work and i’m somewhat back so i’ll try to respond to whatever i could.
eclipse – i’m sorry i hit a raw nerve – i hope you are moichel me.
aries – a-i’m not saying my husband is not at all at fault, nor am i blaming other women. obviously, he should have gotten help before we got married, but what does it help me to harp on that? will that help my shalom bayis? will that solve his problem now? besides, as one day at a time said, he didn’t realize he had a problem. also, many men with this addiction apparently mistakenly believe that marriage will cure their addiction. and he didn’t tell me until now, because he (again mistakenly) believed he could cure himself and i would never have to know about it. and no, i’m not blaming women for the way they dress, but i think if they would realize what they are doing when they dress that way, they might think again.