SS, first I wish you with all my heart, to find your zivug immediately, so you can be on Cloud Nine also, talking about your engagement, your chosson, your plans, etc. BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT ENGAGED GIRLS DO!!!!!!!! Instead of feeling bad, or sorry for yourself, focus on HER simcha right now. First of all, it shows you to be a person of class. Second, when Hashem sees how genuinely happy we are for someone else, maybe He takes a second look at our own situation and says. “Wow, Devorah is such a generous-spirited person! Now it’s her turn.”
Right now, it’s all about her. Next time, it will B”EH be all about you, and I feel fairly certain you will do the same thing she is doing, because it is normal and expected behavior. Let her have this moment without you trying to make her feel she cannot talk freely in front of you. She is not hurting you, you are feeling hurt. There is a difference. I am NOT diminishing your feelings, only asking you to try and understand that your turn will come too, B”EH, so don’t hold back from feeling simcha for your friend.