Secondly, for those people who put down middos and everything is secondary, I don’t believe you. Middos may be a extremely important characteristic, but intellect, looks, family, level of religiousness, play an extremely large role. I know plenty of people in shidduchim (both boys and girls) and anyone who has said they only cared about middos suddenly started caring about other things when I tried setting them up.
I’m one of those people who would put down Middos (and I think I did on a similar thread). Its only realistic to want to marry someone in the same general category (frumkeit, intellect etc). If they are to build a life together, they need some common ground. As far as the Middos thing, what I mean is thats the one thing I wont compromise on. The other stuff we could talk about, but no Middos and hes out the door.