“why should guys be the ones to give the answer first,”
Excellent question. My wife and I, DO go to the girl first many times, although we have found that the guy STILL takes his sweet time “looking into it”. One time a guy was taking too much time to look into things so we simply mentioned someone else to the girl, she said yes, the guy said yes within 48 hours and she had a date all set up, when look who woke up, the first guy, that he was interested. We told him, “she is busy now, she put you on her list”, it felt good to say that to a guy.