1. Both my wife and I bentch the children before Sholom Aleichem.
2. never heard of kissing the mother’s hand.
3. Friday night, we stand for Vayichulu and sit at the brocho (see Rokeach)(also see Minhagei Amsterdam to sit for kiddush at night)
4. Morning sit for brocho
5. Havdolo–stand for all
6. Interestingly, on Yom Tov, at night, we stand for the brocho. why, I don’t know. My father also couldn’t figure out the contradiction.
7. I like the comments from “the Wolf”–couldn’t happen in my house 😉