Besides, the mizbeach is “morid alav dmaos”, “lets down tears on him”. It doesn’t say that it cries for her.
Popa, you flew over my head this time. (Admittedly, not the first).
Are you suggesting that divorce is not tragic for a woman? The Gemora also mentions a huge huge difference in the way a woman will, by nature, value a second marriage.
You also mentioned how a divorced woman can be a fulfillment for ones adulterous desires.