Lemaysa, what does the choson HAVE to get for the kallah and what does the kallah HAVE to get for the choson?
We answered this for you earlier. You HAVE to get her a ring for the kiddushin. You HAVE to get her a kesubah.
Beyond that, it’s all optional (in the sense that your marriage is 100% valid if you don’t do it). There may be some customs that some communities have on the matter — but again, I’m willing to bet dollars to donuts that ANY rav will tell you to dispense with the traditional gifts if it’s going to cause bad feelings.
The Wolf