i believe, NOOOOOO!!!! unless you state that there was always a shidduch crisis. i was an older single – the year after i got married was when i first heard the term shidduch crisis coined. are there tons of single girls around? yes. and there are tons of single boys. and going out earlier and earlier and feeling desperate, etc. will not solve any problem. there are still tons and tons of girls getting married at a young age. there are simply more people so there are more older girls, but the percentages is probably still the same. further, the only way to go out properly is to recognize that Hashem has someone for you. you must be ready to get married, know what you’re looking for, do normal hishtadlus, and daven from your heart. that has always and will always be the way to find your proper zivug. i think this crazy shidduch crisis hype is causing more desparate, crazy way of dating and/or more broken engagements and marriage – because people are feeling so much pressure. the only good thing that came out of this is that people are blaming and shaming the single girls a lot less, but unfortunately, they’re attacking the single boys (and the whole “crisis” is not good for boys, because it makes them think even more that the girls are like a candy shop of which they can just choose the tastiest one, instead of also doing what needs to be done: introspection and proper dating.)
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