“But nursing is and no man should go into it. We learn that from paroh.” By that logic, no women should become a doctor, we learn that from the Rambam (who was a doctor).
You can’t have it both ways — you want your wife to go to a female doctor, you want a frum doctor who understands the shailos — but no women and chas v’shulom, a frum women, should become a doctor. Wake up.