it’s good to ask a shaila because in your heart you really don’t want any taynos. It happened to someone i know involuntarily, where someone mentioned a boy casually, and specifically said that they didn’t want to be involved in redting the shidduch. So they got a shadchan and got engaged, and didn’t think that they owed the person who mentioned the name more than a very warm thank you as they paid the shadchan shadchanus. But the mentioner did feel wronged, never said anything, and later on the couple found out that they had taynos and felt that they should have gotten shadchanus, and everybody a little weird all around, as funny to give shadchanus after a few years or to bring up……..
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