i gotta say that im impressed. it sounds like you are a responsible, thought out person, and you want to make the right choice. while i personally dont think that the cr should be a place to help you make major life decisions, ii’m going to chime in with my opinion anyway.
being ready to get married is not just about knowing who you are and what you want in life. you gotta really want it, and really be ready on an emotional level to enter into a new and challenging (albeit exciting) relationship. if you are changing yeshivos and need to devote time to that, and are in the middle of taking control of a potential parnassa, and you feel that this is taking up all your available energies right now, then i applaud you on the mature decision to wait. it is not fair to anyone to date them while you are in the middle of a few other very time consuming things. dating cannot be the bottom of your to do list, and it has to be the right time. if you are ready to date, you need to be prepared for the possibility of being married in a few months from that time! if you are not ready to do that, for whatever reason, do yourself and your potential date a favor and wait. i cant speak for others, but i have very little respect for men when they are dating because “hey why not, i want to get married, so yeah”. but they dont have their life together on many levels, and if they were married tomorrow, they wouldnt know how to take responsibility for themselves, let alone a wife (not to mention family!). few guys that i know speak like you do, from a place of responsibility and feeling of achrayus for their own life. kudos 🙂