Reply To: how do you improve your middos?

thanks again!

mytake, i liked your explanation, and will try top do it.

dan: interesting, what you said was similar to mytake, except mytake used talking to oneself and you used visual technique; i’ll try the 2 together, im yirtza Hashem.

lomed: first of all, most people would consider me pretty calm. i know that i have work to do, but generally in places where it’s considered “normal”. i agree just reading mesilas yesharim won’t help much which is why i asked my question and got various answers. although therapy may or may not help, it would definitely be extremely costly and time-consuming to work out all of one’s middos in therapy. though, what you said about thinking beforehand of what might upset me and imagining how i can handle it, seems like a good idea also.