observanteen — Acknowledging and trying to address these feelings are a bit part of the battle! This has sort of been said already, but I find the most helpful message to be giving myself is the idea that we are put in this world for a specific purpose, and as R’Ellis, shlita says, all the details of your situation are “custom made” to allow you to accomplish what you need to accomplish. When you stay focused on the end goal, and realize that even if we don’t know why, our situation is best for us, it helps.
There’s a great song on the kids tape “Uncle Moishy Visits Torah Island”, where they basically talk about how each profession has it’s own “tools”, and the chorus goes something like this:
“Every Jew has a mission —
A special job to do,
And whatever you need to do your job,
Hashem will give to you.
So if your friend has more talents, more ???,
More games, or more money to spend,
Just remember, you don’t need it!
And be happy for your friend.”
Good luck!!