Snow:
You seem to have strong ideas about what works and want doesn’t in terms of getting attention for specific girls.
I’m just curious how many shadchanim have you dealt with/spoken to over the last 3 years upon which you are basing opinions.
I’m also curious what kind of money you think would work as a retainer to get a specific shadchan to focus intensly and produce results.
I’m sure for 500 dollars a very active shadchan would make your daughter a high priority and focus intnetly on her day after day week after week- NOT!
Oh and what if there might be someone else who is the person who would have the proper idea for this specific girls. I guess you should go put any and every shadchan willing to listen on retainer. That sounds very cost effective..
When you are finsihed answering those questions, I’ll let you know that tried and tested is reaching out and letting shadchanim (full time/part time/orgs/non orgs) know that you appreciate and recognize the time and effort it takes to get a date off the ground. let them know in recognition of that fact you will compensate them for dates produced. how much to compensate, that’s for each and everyone to decide for themselves. the more difficutly the situation the more i would think to offer. in addition getting to a date #4 should deserve a higher compensation than a date #1.
This has been proven to work
and FYI- Binyan Adei Ad is comprised of a group of SAINTS. (I know two of them personally) who dedicate inhuman amounts of time energy kishkes and every ounce of their being to help older singles. But i’m not sure if they get salaries so i guess they don’t count….
funny you didn’t even hear of them.
Dunno: I would answer you question but i risk offending the entire CR, so i’ll leave it unanswered.