TBT: Communities and classmates are doing on behlaf of the individuals.
It can be done on a individual basis as well and it works very well. It is not being promoted to the public yet because of some potential donwsiedes, but any yachid who wants to know what works, should know THIS works!
Additionally,a friend of family member can do it on behalf of their friend/relative without the friend or relative knowing. That has all the positives without any downsides of the families themselves doing it.
For the reocrd: it’s not magic. it needs follow up with shadchanim etc. A one time conversation will not have them remember your forwever. The reason it works is because shadchanim -like other humans – appreciatie being appreciated and valued. They can’t speak to everyone who wants their attetnion and they can’t look out for everyone.
Being a person who values them and apprecaites them is a sure fire way for them to return your phone calls and try to help you.