pba — You seem to have had some bad experiences in your life on this issue, and I’m sorry. However it seems to me you did not read either the question or answer with an open mind. The issue seems to be that this guy has trouble getting up in the morning — not that he hates learning! In fact one of the respondents even qualified their response by saying “I’m assuming your husband knowshe should be learning and davening AND WISHES TO DO SO.” (emphasis mine) In other words, they are not discussing a guy who doesn’t want to learn, but rather one who has trouble over coming his yetzer harah to get out of bed in the morning. Is it so difficult for your to understand that even someone who wants to learn and daven bzman may find it difficult to get up? Why must it be “he hates learning, because he is not good at it”? I personally know of cases of boys who are excellent in learning and learn very shtark all day but who have trouble getting up for shachris.
She also explained that in general her husband is a “night owl” who stays up late, making the problem worse. Many of the respondents addressed that issue with recommendations to switch to an evening chavrusah instead of learning in the morning. The “peer pressure” response was in connection with recommending he join a daf yomi shuir — certainly not saying he must stay in yeshiva! Even if he leaves yeshiva totally, as per your suggestion, I would assume his wife would want him to be davening with a minyan in the morning and bein Kovaih Ittim, but of which are obligations even for men not in yeshiva!
I actually found the responses to be mostly reasonable and flexible, and none of them implied that her husband must be in Kollel. They all agreed however, that it is somewhat reasonable for a women to expect her husband to be getting up in the morning, davening, and learning something at some point of the day. They also made clear that she is limited in her ability to “force” this on her husband, and warned that criticism and nudging are not appropriate, and tried to give positive ways for her to be encouraging. Doesn’t sound like the path to divorce in my book. . .