m in Israel –
Yes, I did see the “working part time” note.
So? What does he want.. a medal? That’s what he SHOULD be doing, and he should be doing it full time. But, if this is his attitude towards avodas ha’boreh, chances are his “work in the afternoon” is somewhat lack-luster as well.
Learning after the wedding is not a right; its a privilege you need to earn. Daily. And by loafing on the couch, while Mrs. goes to work, all you show it your contempt for her, and lack of appreciation for the hard work she does.