“In fact, both myself and my friends can testify that we are not living anything like doctors.”
Most doctors don’t make anything like people think they make. Median income for primary care physicians has been running about $150K/yr.; you can’t easily raise a frum family on that in the NY area. And doctors typically end up with six figure debts from medical school. I personally know doctors who can’t even afford to buy a reasonable co-op apartment in a frum neighborhood.