well said guy.
In my opinion/experience kids need to come to understand and know exactly what is right for them. Nowadays no one can controll kids and the only person who can shelter them is themselves- if they choose to. TALK to the child- respectfully. Show them how much u love them, how u want only the best for them, how much it bothers u, how important _ is to u. Kids dont want to hurt u. They want to please. I do not think kids can listen when they feel like they r being put down or controlled. They will probly want to go pull away faster to prove themselves..