what is a proper punishment for a teenager cought texting the opposite gender??? im at a loss
It depends what you are trying to accomplish.
If you just don’t want him to text girls, at any cost, then you punish him severely so he will be afraid to do it again.
If you want him to appreciate that it is wrong, you probably shouldn’t punish him at all, and instead should ask yourself why you haven’t been successful in teaching him that it is wrong.
And by teaching, I don’t mean “telling”.
(Oh, and also, if you punish him, you will probably be on here in a year asking how to punish a boy who doesn’t keep shabbos.
Seriously, how do you think it got to this point?)