maybe this question goes deeper, a stepmother once yelled at me when i called her “mom” jokingly and i never knew what to call her after that. i just said “hey”, or i just started speaking to her or i would even rearrange the sentence so i could just say “she”… also my one kid has a unique name and people kept saying stuff to me about it and now i feel uncomfortable saying her name so i’ve just called her “baby” ever since she was a baby…
actually i’ve never said her name to her once, took me about 13 years with the step mother.