‘First of all, he was a big oheiv Yisroel whose “hostility” was never directed at people, but at anti-Torah ideals.’
Religious Zionists would emphatically disagree with that statement.
“so too does a woman/girl have a right to say she wants to marry someone who does wear a hat.”
Yes, we have a right to be stupid. I, the committed Torah U’Maddah guy, did not expect to marry a woman whose rav learned at Lakewood. But she was a perfect match. And if you insist on externals, you are more likely to miss your perfect match.
“I never saw a Rosh Yeshiva or other Rav without a tie.”
Many in Israel go without ties. Its really hot there in the summer!
“They do not have TVs”
I don’t have a TV. Does that make me no longer Modern Orthodox?
“Only because there was no government assistance available at the time. “
ROTF!!!!! More evidence that Big Government is the Torah Way!!!