Sorry popa, but although I think Aries is laying it on a bit strong I echo her sentiments (as shown before). the fact that any of you don’t recognize how out of line the behavior exhibited was is mind blowing in the frum world. As parents we struggle with all kinds of issues to try to raise our children to be mentchen. i am sure I am not the only mother who at times has had to behave very differently in front of her children than she would like to in order to show them the correct way to behave and not the way that feels good but you know is wrong. If we aren’t mechanech our children how can we expect them to be mentchen? Esther acted in heat of the moment and once megillah started it was too late to change but for anyone to defend what she did or see it in any positive light in the glare of 20/20 hindsight is just anti everything we expect frum jews to be. I don’t think coming down on Esther like a ton of bricks will help as it will just make her feel defensive, but to condone what was done is just wrong! to be honest, I have been is similar situations and i walked away, yes, I carped about it for a long time after to anyone who would listen (without names) but I walked away because sometimes you cannot teach people mentchlichkeit and if this woman was rude enough to refuse to move Esther was not going to change her.
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