Well maybe it is because I said I was appalled, or in the way you are reading it not in the way that I wrote it. Try reading it again without the defensive attitude. In addition, why do you say that the other woman was bullying her? Where did you get that because she said that you can’t save the seat? Maybe she felt Esther was being disrespectful and bullying her by saying she is saving the seat for a child.
I stand by what I said. The older woman WAS in the right and I will take it one step further. If your mother was the older woman and came home and told you that this is what happened to her what would you say? “I was in shul and told this young mother that I would like to sit down and she said she was saving the seat for her child. But the other empty seat was facing the wall, so I chose to sit down anyway and figured she would seat her child in the other seat. Would you believe she had the chutzpah to put her child on my lap? I couldn’t believe the nerve of this young woman, and in shul none the less”. What would you tell your mother that she was wrong or that the young woman should have moved over and tell her child to sit in the empty seat? Be honest here. And go even one step further, ask your RAV who was right and who was wrong. I would be very interested to hear what he says, seriously.