So, are we going to get a group of 10 engaged couples, or singles, and have them to be the first to buck the trend. Start a new one. The reality is, a smaller wedding can be so much more meaningful. And certainly, less jealousy and aiy hora.
The kabbolas ponim can still be a big thing, without food, or there can a larger dance, either in a separate hall. But the wedding can be a small, very nice and warm occasion. The way most of our great grandparents got married, for many generations. And thankfully, those weddings produced us!