Reply To: middos therapist

grandmaster, as i’ve said and you’ve said i said it well, some people are truly, truly suffering out there due to the imperfections of others.

i don’t know your history and what you’ve been through, but you have really hurt people by some of your statements. i’m sure you mean to just state what you think is the emes, but you say things in a way that appears that your opinion is the only opinion, and anyone who thinks otherwise is completely wrong, and you state that opinion under the guise of the gedolim, chachamim, etc.

you appear to be too intelligent to truly believe that all gedolim feel that the mezinka dance and birthdays are goyish minhagim, that OTD kids nowadays are reshaim, and some of the other ideas you have posted here.

another way, you inadvertently hurt people is when they are venting, and you ask them something like – if they will forgive the person who hurt them. when someone is suffering, it is not the time and place to teach them mussar.

you seem to be a very knowledgeable, intelligent, and articulate person – please use these strengths to compliment people, encourage them, and to gently expose them to other views that they may have never heard before.

People will take you much more seriously if you do so. you may or may not listen to me. i only mean this for your own and for the cr’s best interest.

and when you do change, you will officially get my personal vote for you for mayor. 🙂