Seahorse, you cannot pass up your bashert- no matter what anyone will tell you. (Some shadchanim have tried to scare me with that) Every stage that you are in life, Hashem has a zivug for you. I was listening to Rabbi Reisman who said that you can never mess up a shidduch. If it didn’t work out, it wasn’t meant to be. For me, I think it’s a connecting boy with girl issue,sometimes I see boys, who are single, and I wonder, why don’t people set me up with any of them? Some people have said to me when I’ve given them names, “I don’t set up shidduchim, find someone else.” Or I’ve heard they charge so much money. I am so dependent on our community- can’t they help me? I understand it is a lot of work, but singles need help. That being said, there are so many people (more than not actually) who are willing to help, even out of town, and moving to NY/Brooklyn is not always an option. It is also important to live in the moment and enjoy being single (as hard as that may seem, there are so many things you can do to enjoy this time). You can make such a difference in your own life and klall Yisrael at this point in your life.
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