happiest PLEASE believe that H’ has your best interests at heart, and once you find your bashert you will see the ‘?? ? .
I’ll give you a beautiful example to help people who find themselves in what they think is a difficult situation, from Reb Yosef Chaim Sonnenfeld ??”?. This can give people chizuk in any situation.
When ???? and ???? davened for children, they had to daven many many times over a long period.
??”? asks why did they have to daven & wait so long? He answers that H’ loves the ?????? of ?????? .
Reb Yosef Chaim Sonnenfeld ??”? gives another most amazing answer.
We all know that ????? ????? was to have lived to age 180 years, but H’ shortened his life by 5 years so he shouldnt have to see ???? with his wicked ways. So if ???? and ???? would have had their ?????? for children answered earlier then ????? ????? would have had to be ???? even earlier ?”?. And this is obviously not what anyone would have wanted. So their ?????? WERE answered, just that only H’ knew when was the best TIME to answer them!!!
Another short and beautiful vort is as follows:
Imagine you are ???? ?????? watching over ??? in the basket in the Nile. You would obviously hope that nobody will discover him and he can lie peacefully and undisturbed. After a while you notice a group of riders and a chariot heading along the costal road. It is too far away to make out who it is, but you hope they will continue and not see you or the basket.
Suddenely they turn down towards the Nile. What would anyone do? Whip out a ????? and begin davening that they dont come down near your hiding place. You recognize wicked ????’s daughter with her soldiers and daven like never before that they should not find you.
With hindsight, you are davening for the worst possible outcome for ??? ?????! Because the whole ???? of the Yiden is dependant on ????’s daughter seeing the basket, rescuing ??? and bringing him up in ????’s palace! So we would all be unwittingly asking for the wrong thing. What we, with our limited vision, perceive as the worst case senario is in reality the best thing that could happen.
So just cos we daven and dont APPEAR to be answered, dont give up. Keep davening and leave everything to ‘?.