Know.it.all said, “some of them have no problem with the fact that their husband/father is waiting”
In other words, these are rude women. They don’t care that they are interrupting your Shabbat, nor do they care about their own homes.
In that case, you need to be a little more forceful. For example, say “we’re making kiddush now” and proceed to the table and make kiddush in a strong voice.