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Friday night as we come home from shul as expected my mother has her sister in laws and all the yentas sitting around the dining/living room which dont seem to get the message to leave the house up until we make kiddush.
HELP!
Any Ideas?
Make kiddush!!!!!!
And so?
im so confused?? am i the only one who did not understand the question??
May no Jew ever have bigger problems than this….
Is this YOUR problem or your mother’s?????
maybe your mom is doing a huge mitzva by speaking with them for a while. they sound like very lonely pple.
i don’t seem to understand the question, sorry. could you explain better! thanks.
Wow this a huge problem in our house too, nothing seems to work. I don’t understand them most of the men daven in the same shul shouldn’t they go home too ?
been there know it, i agree when the men come home the women should say good shabbos and be on their way, its nice to shmooze but sometimes the shmoozing goes on seemingly forever as a minority man in a mostly female office it does get grating when they shmooze and shmooze and shmooze it never seems to end.
I don’t want to sound misogynistic but i feel many women are addicted to shmoozing.
This happens in my house also. My husband very politely tell everyone that they are welcome to stay for kiddush that they dont have to rush home, but we are making kiddush right now and then he starts to make kiddush. Or he has used a different approach. He tells everyone that their husbands/fathers just came home and are waiting for them to start to make kiddush. Everyone who comes to my house knows that is not true as we are always the first to make kiddush but they get the hint.
“…until we make kiddush”
So make kiddush!
“women are addicted to shmoozing” – see Kiddushin 49b among others
Know.it.all said, “some of them have no problem with the fact that their husband/father is waiting”
In other words, these are rude women. They don’t care that they are interrupting your Shabbat, nor do they care about their own homes.
In that case, you need to be a little more forceful. For example, say “we’re making kiddush now” and proceed to the table and make kiddush in a strong voice.
friday night alot of jewish men dont hold shabbos in the flatbush boropark brooklyn ny area
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