I want a stunning diamond ring (stunning, not davka expensive), but I don’t care for all the other stuff like necklace, earrings,bracelet, machzorim, (even leichter-I’m fine with silver plated or whatever).
Regarding the wedding night- I’d forget about flower centerpieces, do a simple menu, one man band. Can’t think of anything else, but I’d take suggestions from my parents/in-laws and cooperate with them.