Eclipse, this is called gaslighting, making the other person act and feel crazy. Its a set up. Forget about it. Try this coaching method. Write it down next to the phone so you will remember it each time he calls. Take two deep breaths before responding to him. While breathing ask yourself “what does he expect me to say” Try answering “I’ll think about it and get back to you” Never give him a response you will regret later. Use non-committal responses such as “interesting, I’ll give that some thought, so that’s what you were thinking, I see what your saying.” Of course you see what he is saying because everything he is saying is for his benefit and that is obvious to you. You know what he is thinking but your response doesn’t give him a clue what you are thinking. Keep him guessing without giving him the response he expects. In other words you are answering him without an answer at all. In a sense that is called double talking. You are stroking his huge ego, he thinks you are agreeing, or at least understanding but you don’t agree to anything and you don’t lose your cool, you just play a game. You tell him you will think about what he said then you either email him or when he calls back let him know that you thought about it and you did not change your mind. In the end you are the winner. You are a clear thinker. You don’t lose your cool, you stay in control, you let him jabber, and you still make your own decisions. How does that sound?
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