Aries: You may call me naive. You may even go the route of calling me a mechutsaf. Fine. However, you are not advising her well.
Why was his father always silent? His father wanted him to at least have a mother, without any resentment or upset-ness. He should at least have his mother to love, worry-free.
Eclips, or anyone in such a situation, should not allow the other one to make the rules of the game. They should seek to always be the tzadik/tzidekes, period. Of course humans fall through at times. That, though, should not be the rule. She should follow her own rules of darchei noam.