I don’t know and I bow to the halachic experts on this one. But I did here something today that did disturb me and I thought I would share it with my friends on the CR. I was at the nail salon when I heard some young women speaking. They were speaking about Gebruchts vs. non-gebruchts and how it is just a minhag and one said that she used to go to Gateways and she didn’t hold from non-gebruchts so she put matzah in her soup anyway. So how do people who are makpid on keilim go to hotels for Pesach? I was quite appalled so I joined the conversation and told her that people who wish to broch at a non-gebrochts hotel are supposed to “ask” for plastic dinnerware so they do NOT ruin the keilim for the other guests. THAT is how it is done. One needs to be considerate of the other people. The caterer and the olam that go assumes that the people who choose to go to a non-gebrochts hotel follow the shita of non-gebrochts and respect the minhag vis a vis the dining room and the keilim. It is those who choose NOT to follow the OLAM and majority that are there who need to ask for special accommodations and they will be accommodated.
She looked at me shocked and said “it is NOT my problem” so I told her it certainly was her problem because the assumption is that everyone who comes is following the “rule of the minhag of the caterer” to break the rule is rude and unacceptable and causes problems for the rest of the olam when a problem need not arise and you could be accommodated to do as you wish with disposable keilim.
Her respnse was, why would anyone who brochs understand the minhag of NOT broching? I told her that you learn that in school when you learn the dinim and minhagim of Pesach. That is part of the standard curriculum. Am I crazy? Do they NOT teach this in school? Is it possible that young women and men today to not understand these very important customs? Is it normal that someone will have a meal in someone else’s home and just do as they wish possibly giving someone else a heart attack? I just can’t believe this is true.