Truth, the one main criteria of defining a kosher witness is Shmiras Shabbos, especially Befarhesia. Eating in the Sukkah on Sh”A, or observing a different Z’man for Krias Sh’ma is not in the same category, by any stretch. And, since the Rav explicitly stated his condition for eidim before the Chasunah, it should have been honored, or the Rav replaced. There are Chassidisher Rebbes who will not be Mesader Kiddushin if the woman will not shave her head, and Roshey Yeshiva who refuse to officiate if videos are taken. While they readily acknowledge that there are other opinions or minhagim, their stance is to be respected, and one cannot ask them to bend their p’sak to accomodate everyone. Now, if we accept a refusal to be Mesader Kiddushin if the Kallah won’t shave, which is merely a custom in certain circles, how much so we must respect a Rov who considers using Boro Park Eiruv as bonafife Chillul Shabbos Befarhesia? Are we also going to force him to eat at the wedding from a shechita that he doesn’t consider kosher, just to make the mechutanim feel good?
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