Rebyid40:
There are many couples who are willing to work. On trying to get along but whose personalities are just so different that they cannot work out their differences.
So how did they ever get married in the first place? How did they ever have children?
(I think Rabbi Salamon’s parenting book discusses this idea at legnth)
I cannot fathom why somone would think that its beneficial for children to grow up in an envronment of stress and discord.
And what exactly is divorced life for the kids, stress-free and harmonious? Think again. Especially based upon so many divorces in our community with ugly custody battles. The kids are used as pawns.
(Whenever I see undeniably disgusting behaviors during the divorce process, I do become judgmental. I will automatically assume that the party playing the silly games was at fault for the dissolution of the marriage. And when both sides do it, I judge them both for being at fault. If we would all do it, maybe divorces would be more civil.)
Why do both parties have to be miserable for 50-f0 years?? If they both remarry they can have many happy years together wih their new spouses…
“Can” and reality don’t match on this one. The exact numbers have been cited here several times. Second marriages have huge increase in divorce rate from first marriages.
So unless there is truly a compelling reason, its more probable for that second time to fail. The grass aint greener on the other side.